Who’s Really In Control? Why You May Not Be in Control of Your Results as Much as You Think

Who’s Really In Control? Why You May Not Be in Control of Your Results as Much as You Think

Who's Really in Control? Why You May Not Be in Control of Your Results as Much as You Think

                                                                                                          Photo by Maura Barbalescu on Pixabay

A conundrum…

In businesses, our personal lives or on the sports field, our successes are almost always defined by our results. But we’re not always in control of our results as much as we may think. 

If that’s the case, who is in control? 

That’s the question that sprang to mind when I attended a seminar years ago on potential and the power of our minds. Sometimes things we hear at seminars are designed to shock us, which is usually at a low grade, tacky event, or they’re designed to get us to think differently and challenge our thinking, like this one was.

Otherwise we end up learning nothing new and come away doing exactly the same things as we’ve always done…..and we end up getting the same results we’ve always got.

No real surprise there.

Don’t Go Down This Route

However, at this particular seminar it certainly got me thinking when I heard the statement “We’re not in control of our results as much as we think”.  My mind immediately went down the route of blaming someone else for the negative results as someone had to be responsible.

We’re always happy to accept responsibility when the going’s good but when things are getting a little tacky and downright difficult, it’s much easier to look elsewhere.

We blame it on the government, the chancellor for putting up taxes, lack of funding, the strikes affecting the economy, the weather and a myriad of other ‘excuses’.

A Tough Truth

What got even more confusing as the speaker went on, was that we’re not always in control but we’re to blame.

My mind started going into overload “I’m not in control but I’m to blame!….How does that work exactly?”.

Over the next few hours, we learned amongst other things, that the majority of our day, somewhere between 70 and 90 percent, is spent on autopilot, repeating the same patterns and habits on a daily basis.

Which is why it’s said we’re creatures of habit.

The Reality… Who is in control

Our conscious mind is only in control of a very small part of our day and the rest of it is being run by our subconscious, and we’re not even aware of it!

Have you ever driven to take the kids to school, driven to the supermarket or golf club and when you’ve got there, you’ve not even been aware of how you got there?

With everything you have going on in your life, the subconscious mind was in control without you even realising it. 

This happens for the majority of our day. Our subconscious will just go on auto-repeat if it could everyday, like in the film GroundHog Day: alarm 6.30am – shower – train at 7.15am – office at 8am – coffee – check emails and so on and on.

I had a friend that would always have pizza for dinner every Friday at 7pm….because that’s what they always did. Every Friday.

Which is ok in some circumstances that don’t require us to think through things, but it’s not so great in others, e.g. repeating the same patterns and habits that don’t actually help move us forward and improve our circumstances, business or life.

 Which include negative thought patterns.

These negative thought patterns are not always evident but they show up in our results, whether that is in business, life or the sports field. 

So going back to the original question of “Who is in control”…. it’s our subconscious mind.

Our subconscious directs our thoughts, feeling and actions, without our conscious mind always being aware. Which means, it’s pulling the strings and directing the results.

With that in mind, if you’re not happy with your results and your performance, get in touch to see how I may be able to help you get to another level by clicking here.