Let’s Educate Not Alienate

Let’s Educate Not Alienate
EDUCATING KIDS TO EMBRACE FAILURE IS IMPORTANT TO MENTAL STRENGTH

Let's Educate Not Alienate

Let’s educate not alienate people is something that came to me earlier today when listening to a lot of the challenges people are facing.

There’s so much information today, almost too much. No in fact, definitely too much when you consider what’s available as soon as you type in a question on a search engine and get back the statement ’54 million Results’ in less than 1 second.

There’s never been more information available but yet there’s so many who are still struggling in many areas, when it comes to getting results, whether that is personally or professionally. This isn’t limited to the present situation we’re facing globally, but a crisis tends to highlight and magnify the problems.

A Frightening Statistic

Something like 40 million Americans and I in 4 people in the UK are struggling with some form of anxiety issue. 

The problem isn’t a lack of information but more of several other things which I thought I’d share my thoughts here.

Three Things Needed for improvement

There are three things that are required to improve in an area, let’s say an individual’s or teams’ performance and they are: 

Talent. There has to be some degree of ability to do whatever it is you want to improve on, but not merely a case of being a ‘natural born’ or purely naturally gifted talent. Watching the docuseries on Michael Jordan, the basketball great shows this succinctly. 

As a high school freshman he struggled with the sport and wasn’t even sure if he would make the team and continue with the sport. Obviously if he had it would have prevented the world from enjoying his talents and becoming the greatest, in my opinion, player the game has ever seen.

Desire. Without desire, and by that, I mean a burning desire, not just simply wishing for something.

The third and most important part of all is:

Mindset. Without having the right mindset there won’t be the commitment, the grit, persistence and wherewithal to keep going when things get really tough and maybe even seem impossible

Mindset isn’t just about that, but a whole lot more,  but for this article I have chosen to focus on the following:

Asking yourself meaningful questions. Questions that will challenge your motive for doing what you’re doing to discover the real reason behind it. Your reason ‘Why’. If it’s not strong enough, this is where people usually come unstuck and throw the towel in, with a deluge of reasons or excuses.

The Real Problem

Fear. Fear of failure is probably the biggest problem many people struggle with. I know I did more than once in my career, but I wasn’t always aware of it. We’re taught we have to succeed from a young age, whether in the classroom or the sports field, which isn’t a bad thing, but we’re not taught anything really about failing. No one likes to fail, it’ an uncomfortable and at times a nasty, bitter experience, but the longer we leave it to deal with it, the more difficult and bitter an experience it becomes.

Perception. The way we see things, dictates our view on the world. With failure if we see it as a negative, it will affect the way we approach things. But if we see failure as a way of learning and a way to improve, rather than it defining us, then that can and will change how we set out to accomplish something, our progress and ultimately, our results.

Really successful people focus on what they can control and leave the rest as well as focusing on what they want to achieve, rather than what they fear.

The Key is to Educate Not Alienate

The key is to educate not alienate. As mentioned above, fear of failure is often more of a problem than actually failing. We tend to alienate ourselves from others, from attempting things, both personally and professionally, that will stretch us and force us to develop our skills, talents and mental strength required to get to another level. 

It also alienates us from reaching our potential, greater possibilities, a greater sense of achievement and happiness. 

Education starts from a young age, that mistakes and failure is to be embraced, not feared. But that doesn’t mean we can’t educate later in life.

Far from it.

We need to be encouraging more education and how to improve our mental strength, mindset and resilience, to become more confident, healthier people in whatever we choose to do.

After all, that’s what we aim for in our children, but too often, we’re struggling with those very things ourselves both personally and professionally.

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