I hear so much these days about goal setting, goals and more goals. It sounds a bit like Match of the Day.
How to set goals, big goals, little goals, get goals, go for your goal, target driven goals. I'm all goaled out to be honest.
So many people are driven to achieve their goals but so many actually end up failing and feeling more miserable for months and even years on end. Some spend their entire lives in torture trying to achieve target driven goals that really they have no fun doing or get very little return on their efforts.
In short no contentment or wow factor.
Now I'm not against goals entirely but using goals as the be all and end all I think is not the most productive way to achieve bigger things. To get the bigger picture. To achieve something a bit more than just a monthly sales target.
What I believe is far more beneficial and worthy is to have a vision. A vision of what you want your ideal life to be like.
It doesn't have to be a picture of a luxury yacht in the caribbean, sipping cocktails whilst making millions whilst doing little else but sunbathing. I think that's the painted rosey picture we've been falsely led to believe is eutopia.
But in reality, it can me so much less but so much more than that at the same time.
It's not always about having millions in the bank. For some the idea of being able to spend more quality time with their family rather than killing themselves at a job they hate would bring so much happiness to them.
Or maybe being able to spend time writing a book you've always wanted to. Work with children, teach, give your time to a worthwhile cause or even set up a charity foundation if you did have the necessary funds and support.
There are so many things that can change your world and others that don't have to be driven merely by money but for the quality of life and the purpose for which you feel brings you and others true happiness or contentment.
I've recently finished studying a course given by Dr Richard Boyatzis, wherein he teaches that in order to find improved performance, success and ultimately happiness, a vision is necessary rather merely setting a series of goals.
Goals in themselves are ok to attain a certain level of success but without a vision, a dream, that's big enough to get you really excited, then the mere chasing of targets and small goals doesn't have the same feeling of success, reward or contentment.
Goals set by others, target driven goals especially are at times counter productive, insomuch as we feel obligated or that we ought to be achieving something rather than wanting to. Instead of being ourselves, we are being the 'ought self' ie the person we think we 'ought' to be rather than who we really want to be.
The effect is that we don't really perform to our best when we are operating as the ought self as it conflicts with who we really are. We can't get excited by doing what we think we 'should' be doing, rather than doing something we enjoy our see as a way to get realising our vision or dream.
So whilst goals in themselves are not bad, without the bigger picture, the vision or the dream, they can just be millstones or unrewarding challenges, especially if set by someone else.
Might be a good time to re-think your goals, vision or dreams and if you haven't got any, an even better time to start making some.
ps contact me if you would like to know more about how to go about turning your vision into reality.