I often hear people say they wish they could have this or wish they could have that and simply do nothing towards actually getting it. They think because they wish for it they can never get it or they think wishing for it, they’ll just have to wait for it to appear.
And guess what? It hardly ever actually appears.
Not really. The idea of wishing for something with the idea that you’ll never get it or achieve it becomes your belief and when you believe something you will act accordingly.
Which simply put, means you won’t do anything to move you in the direction of what you want.
Which brings me to the statement ‘in order to go up you have to give up’, to motivate people to do something.
This can have the exact opposite result of what is desired.. The thought of having to go without doesn’t fill anyone with joy,.
Here’s an example of what I mean. Rebecca wants to go to college to study to be a vet. However she has been told she isn’t smart enough to get the necessary grades to gain entry to the college. Rebecca believes this to be true and does nothing about doing what she loves and following her dream to work with animals.
She has taken on the belief that she isn’t qualified, isn’t smart enough and isn’t good enough to do what she wants……because her grades are not good enough. But that is looking at the result of her present situation and merely accepting it as true.
Rebecca has fallen victim to the unscrupulous trick of the mind of accepting other people’s thoughts and beliefs and taken them on as her own. So she never looks to prove them wrong and never questions the validity of what is being presented in front of her as only being temporary, that it can change. Accepting it is true makes it permanent and therefore has potentially life changing implications.
If Rebecca could only question those beliefs and look instead to prove them wrong, how different could it be? Very. The only way to know is to challenge those beliefs and other people’s thoughts and even the hard evidence of the report card. A report card isn’t cast in stone, it is only written on paper. It can be changed.
First though, is to believe we can change it. How many others have managed to succeed in changing what they thought was real, when in reality was just a belief that held them chained to a life of mediocrity and wishing they could achieve something.
It may take a bit longer than the ‘normal’ route we have been led to believe is the only way to go through life stages. Not everyone these days follows the same well-trodden path of the sheep.
So if Rebecca has to study for an extra year, re-take exams or do whatever is required to get to the next stage, then she must do it. If she really wants what she says she wants.
Asking herself searching questions like ‘what am I doing or where am I spending my time? Or ‘what can I stop doing to help me move toward being a vet?’ are far deeper questions more likely to get better answers.
These questions challenge a) the belief that Rebecca isn’t good enough and b) questions the validity of where her time is being spent. Which is completely different to the question in the heading.
The idea of sacrifice or giving up something brings up thoughts of even more hardship rather than focusing on the outcome of what we want. So instead of sacrifice, think of the gain, the end result, what you want.
This may seem simple and it is, if you challenge the belief. It may just take a little longer than you wanted but won’t it taste all the better!
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