Do you ever wish you could do something but never seem to get to actually do it? eg ride your bike again or play tennis, golf, learn a language or maybe even parachuting or skydiving or emigrate.
I can hear many of you now saying things like ‘I don’t have time’, ‘I’ve got kids’ or ‘maybe when I was younger’.
But aren’t they all excuses?
I’m not saying you may not have a valid point but when you really want to do something and break it all down….. what is stopping you? Most of the time it’s you!
Or as I call it now…. Mother-in-Law Syndrome. The little voice that got programmed into your head that says ‘what do you want to do that for?’. It may seem like nothing but believe me sometimes one word or a phrase can have an incredibly life changing effect on some people.
It can be so debilitating that it literally can stop you from doing something you love for the rest of your life. When you hear that voice asking that simple question, it literally stops you in your tracks like a police road block. Stopping you from having that time for you to enjoy doing what you really love. You time.
So why does this happen?
It’s quite simple really. Programming. How we have been ‘programmed’ how to think or behave or conditioned. At the time when we first want to do something, we get asked that terrible question. But it’s not merely the question that is so powerful, it’s the meaning behind the question.
We see it as being questioned by someone who doesn’t understand what it is we want do do. They don’t have the same affinity or passion for what it is that we love: golf, skydiving, knitting wacky Christmas jumpers or helping stray animals. It doesn't matter what.
So we start to doubt ourselves, and question our passions as being something that we shouldn’t actually be doing. It’s like we should be part of an underground cult that really ought to know better about doing those sort of ‘things’.
Before long the doubt gets the better of us as that simple phrase is firmly implanted in our subconscious. So as time goes by our passion starts to wane and we start to put things in the way as the dreaded ‘mother-in-law syndrome’ rears it’s head whenever we look at doing something out of the ordinary of something we love with that passion killer ringing in our ears.
So what can we do to stop this?
Becoming aware it’s actually happening is the first key. Once we realise this then we can then either make the decision to carry on as we are and let it affect our lives, often for good.
Or we can decide we are responsible for our own lives and do what we want irrespective of what others say or think. Break out from being controlled by someone else’s thoughts.
You decide. It’s your life – go live it the way you want and you’ll be a lot happier and healthier.
Oh and by the way…. My mother-in-law is a wonderful woman but she just thinks differently to me that’s all. But at 88 she is starting to watch golf now. Love it.
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