Are You Asking the Right Questions?
I often hear people saying things or asking themselves questions that really are not helping them move forward or get the results they want.
The quality of the questions we ask ourselves and the way we speak so often determines the outcome before we’ve even started a task or project. The habit of asking ‘the right questions’ can literally change the way you think, act and achieve better results in your life.
And it doesn’t have to take years or months to see the results of these changes. You can start seeing a difference in a matter of days if you apply this simple but incredibly effective strategy.
Asking the right type of questions gets the mind thinking about the result and actually looks for ways to achieve what you want. The question can be the creator of your actions.
Here are some examples of the right type of questions we can ask ourselves
‘How can I achieve this?’
‘What’s the best way to….?’
‘What’s the solution?’
‘What could I do to make this easier?’
Questions that focus on the positive, the possible and moving forward, rather than asking questions focusing on the negative and likely failure are the types of questions that will inspire you to take action and see results.
Questions that focus on negativity and doubt are the kiss of death confidence and success.
Something like: ‘Why can’t I ever seem to get the hang of this?’ Or ‘why am I so bad at this?’. This is only implanting the negative more into our way of thinking and our belief system, making excuses easier. ‘
If you’ve ever been on a golf course with friends I’m sure you will have heard yourself or some of your friends say something like ‘I’m never going to get over that bunker’ or in the office something like ‘I’m never going to get that report finished by Friday’.
And guess what? You’re probably right 99pct of the time!
Although it’s not a question, the effect on the mind is the same. You’ve already told yourself you’re not going to do it. You are going to fail. When do fail, you are right you then say something to confirm your original statement along the lines of ‘see, I told you so’. Or ‘I *&^%$ well knew it!’.
So it’s quite easy to achieve what you intended and the mind seems content in the knowledge it achieved what you first said, so the result doesn’t appear so bad.
Awareness is key. When we become aware we are doing this, then we can ask ourselves different, better quality and more uplifting questions.
Those who ask inspiring, positive outcome questions often live a more rewarding, successful life focused on positivity rather than negativity and doom and gloom.
Start asking yourself better quality or the ’right’ questions from now on and see how much a difference it can make to your results.
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